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Can A Marriage Survive Without Sex?

[ 0 ] August 10, 2011 |

Dear Girlfriend,

I am a married women in my late thirties. My husband is a good man. A good husband and father. He is good to me, in all ways but one…sex. When we started dating we have lots of great sex. I have always been a very sexual being. He is a bit older than me, in his late forties. Soon after we married, I started noticing a difference in his stamina and our sex life has dwindled since them. Now we have have sex once every three months. Even then the sex last only ten minutes. Why does he think that is ok? It’s like he he gives it to me every once in a while I will stay with him.  We have talked about his dysfunction many times over the years as my frustration grew.  He even has the little blue pill but that does not seem to make him want to have sex.

As the years pass, I have gained weight, I think out of  frustration. At night when I should be having sex, I eat. I drink.  And I eat.  Martinis and cheese fries. Asking, why is he so clueless? Why does he not think I will cheat. It is really getting bad. I dream of sex. I fantasize about sex. The sex toys aren’t enough. I need contact, affection. He always want to hug and kiss. I run the other way, I can’t take it. I want to scream “Stop touching me, I you are not going to F me”. But I don’t scream, I don’t want to make the problem worse.

I wonder what I can do to have an affair, where can I meet a man? Can I have a separate sexual relationship and still keep my marriage and family together? I don’t want to be a cheater? I look at my three young  children and wonder should I just get a divorce? No sex should certainly be grounds.

Help! Climbing the walls…….Connie, Ohio

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